Although I am relatively young (51) I know the affects of chronic pain. I am a chronic pain sufferer. Unfortunately, this means that a part of my life is consumed by a medication schedule, visits to the doctor, therapy or another surgery.
Therefore, if you know someone who suffers from chronic pain, please improve your relationship by communicating better and being patient. Here are some ways to better understand the chronically ill patient:
1. When you take a moment to ask the sufferer how she is doing, find out how she is doing emotionally, not just physically. This makes the sufferer feel that you really do care. Somehow it makes the day more bearable.
2. Remember what it is like to suffer pain for a few days, even one day. Then think about the person who you know that suffers each and every day, if only for part of the day.
3. Remember the adage, do not criticize or be judgmental unless you have walked a mile in the other's shoes. If you keep this in mind and become patient, the sufferer really appreciates your interest and concern. However, be sincere. Those suffering with chronic pain can see through an insincere remark or gesture in a heartbeat.
4. Remember: The chronic sufferer did not choose to be in this position. The sufferer has been dealt a bad hand, so to speak. Chronic pain can be depressing, and at times, debilitating. At the very least, it is challenging. Therefore, take the time to better understand the condition or illness that the other suffers so you will better understand treatment options, therapies, and medications.
5. Speaking of medications, the chronically ill person is not an addict. Do not be judgmental or critical if the sufferer shares with you the types of medications she is taking. Remember, the medications, if properly prescribed, are helping the sufferer cope and get through the day.
6. Do not be embarrassed to ask, "Can I pray for you?" The sufferer will be very thankful for your offer, and it may be the first time someone has ever offered to pray for her.
Coping with chronic pain is very difficult. Do you best to understand, be patient, and learn more about the sufferer's condition. To learn more about the types of injuries for which we represent people at Stoehr & Smith, LLC, see our website at www.stoehrsmithlaw.com.
Attorney Doug Stoehr
